what are some of the disadvantages of arranged marriage? what are the advantages of marriage preceding courtship?
, here are some disadvantages of arranged marriages: 1. Inability to make up one’s own mind When marriages are arranged by elders or parents, this does not encourage spouses to make up their own mind about who to marry. Instead of dating and meeting people and comparing them against one’s ideals, they leave that part of the work to someone else. Should either spouse end up unhappy after being married a few years, it can be very tempting to blame one’s parents for making an unsuitable choice. 2. Love takes second priority “Decide with your head and not with your heart” is what parents tell their children. This philosophy tends to put love in the back burner. For people who live in societies where arranged marriages are the practice, they are convinced that if they don’t feel any passionate love when the marriage takes place, love will bloom eventually. It is more important to consider the social and economic viability of the marriage rather than put romantic love at the forefront – which will fade anyway because romantic love is at best a superficial feeling. 3. Interference from extended family While there are benefits to having one’s extended family close by who can offer support when needed, this proximity has pitfalls. For some Muslims and others who have, in particular, been living in the west for a long time, may find this closeness a little awkward and uncomfortable. Some marital arguments and conflicts are settled better when only the spouses are involved. When the in-laws interfere and impose their views, this can cause stress to the marriage.
Advantage is you really get to know each other. Its definitely the right thing to do. Its preperation for marriage. You are both then able to know if this is who you want to spend the rest of the life with. I mean its alot better to try on a pair of jeans before buying them, ya dont want to have to change them. Right?!
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